Anyone who tunes into my podcast knows full well I am BIG on sexual expression, open conversation and self-exploration. I’m also very anti the shame that still seems to be attached to pleasuring yourself an masturbation, especially for females. Men wanking off has less stigma attached, but yet women who want to orgasm by themselves or touching themselves seems to have some negativity attached to it.
WHY?
For me, it’s actually an important part of self growth, and something that should be encouraged. Firstly, knowing how to climax yourself is damn handy when it comes to sexual interaction with another person. Secondly, if you do not indulge in self pleasure, does that mean you never enjoy an orgasm when you’re single? That SUCKS. Thirdly, allowing your body to have an orgasm actually delivers real (yes, real) health benefits:
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Reduce stress and releases tension – Orgasms help to shift the focus away, mentally and physically, from anything that is stressing you out.
Release of Endorphins – these are those epic feel-good ‘natural painkillers’ that the body produces that elevates your mood as well as reducing stress or discomfort.
Enhance sleep quality – When it comes to orgasms, that ‘release’ unleashes all pent up energy and tension in your body. The muscles spasm, your breathing, blood pressure and heart rate is high, and then the come down release after puts you into a form of ‘meditative’ state.
Alleviate pain – Menstrual cramps? Try an orgasm. Those epic endorphins are your body’s natural painkiller and will help loosen the muscle cramping.
Improves sex. – DUH! Pleasuring yourself helps you to guide your other half on how to get you off too, and usually increases your own libido as you want more and more.
Self-image – Single? Doesn’t matter, you can still feel sexy getting yourself off. In a relationship? Your partner will LOVE seeing you orgasm and watching you in real deep pleasure.
Do you need any more reasons to start exploring your own body? I think not.
If you, like me, are unable to reach any kind of orgasm with yourself and your fingers – fret not. You are not ‘broken’ or ‘not normal’. I only discovered my own orgasm once I had got my first vibrator. Turns out, with something vibrating on my clit, I can get myself off in minutes. Before these bad boys came into my life, I had zero climax, alone or with my partner. Nada. Nothing. But once I received my first vibrator it was a life game-changer, actual. So start researching online and, if it scares you, start small and something that fits into your hand. You DO NOT need some giant penis shaped massive dildo. You can simply get a small vibe that you wouldn’t even know it is a sex toy if you saw it on a shelf.
Now go forth, and self-pleasure.
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