Reigniting the Sexual Spark Between the Sheets

There are plenty of reasons why the spark, that once defined your relationship, can fade. This can often be a natural repercussion of time passing by, and the two of you becoming so used to each other that surprises and excitement become a thing of the past. However, this doesn’t need to be the case, as there are a multitude of ways that this spark can be reignited. CEO of sex toy eshop Stuffgoodies, Gabriela Rocha, has provided her insight into the ways in which you can turn your stale sex life around and reintroduce some intrigue and excitement to the bedroom.

Communication
First of all, it’s important to note that there’s no one, right answer when it comes to reigniting your spark. What may work for one couple, may do nothing for another. In order to find out what works best for you and your partner, a certain level of experimentation is needed. For this experimentation to flourish, and when engaging in any sexual acts, communication is extremely important. In fact, in many cases, it will be this communication that is lacking from your relationship. You may find that, once you start openly discussing your stagnant sex life, that the excitement comes flooding back. Alternatively, there are multiple toys you can use to introduce some intrigue and intensity back into the bedroom.

Things To Consider
When using sex toys with a partner, you must find the balance between what’s worth considering and the exciting elements that should be discovered through pure experimentation. This is where communication comes into play. Certain things definitely need to be discussed; boundaries need to be set; safe words may even need to be decided upon, but what really makes a spark flourish in its natural habitat (the bedroom) is a little bit of impulsive spontaneity.

Turning Each Other On
If you’re in a bit of a sexual rut, it’s likely that you’ll find it quite difficult to find the motivation to pleasure your partner, and vice versa. Turning each other on seemed so easy once upon a time, but now it might feel like you’ve lost your mojo. One thing’s for sure though: you never forget exactly how to pleasure yourself. That just comes naturally. Why not try masturbating together? Show your partner exactly what you like, and let them do the same for you. Seeing each other enjoy solo pleasure will do a lot to build intimacy in your relationship. Displaying this level of vulnerability will naturally encourage closeness and help to rebuild the trust that fires your spark. You can, of course, leave this job to your hands alone, but why not spice things up further and bring a toy into the mix. Vibrators, dildos, cock rings, even a little something to stimulate the prostate – nothing is off limits here. As long as you are opening yourself up to your partner whilst having a thoroughly good time, you’re doing it right.

Choosing Toys Together
Assuming you’re a beginner in the world of using sex toys with your partner, a lot can be said for familiarizing yourself with your options as a team. As previously mentioned, there’s no one right answer. There’s no single sex toy that will suddenly solve your stagnation. What you will need to do is follow your mutual curiosity and choose something (or several things) that spark excitement in you both. Again, communication is key.

Creative Stimulation
Sex toys have one, very obvious, way of stimulating you or your partner. This can certainly be enough but, as always, where’s the harm in getting a little more creative? Experimenting with temperature is a fun thing to do. Try utilising ice cubes, or even some hot wax if you want to get a bit kinkier. Further to this, some metal toys will retain temperature when submerged in hot or old water. There are even some warming toys that will feel great on any part of your body – inside or out. A little sensory deprivation can help with the intensity of your stimulation, too. A simple blindfold can make any sexual act feel considerably more erotic. A blindfold pairs quite naturally with other light forms of BDSM, so if you enjoy going in blind, why not try getting a little kinkier and tying each other up? It goes without saying that communication and consent is very important here, but you may find that something experimental like this is just what’s been missing from your sex life.

There are so many ways you can reignite your spark. Like anything worthwhile, it will take a little effort from both parties – in the form of experimentation and communication – but if it’s something you both want, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t achieve it.