Listen, one doesn’t like to brag, but one knows when one is good at something. And boy, am I good at this. I have had many the compliment over the years on my blowjob technique, but in general you can just tell if it is hitting the spot or not. I actually released a podcast episode on why I believe we should embrace the blowie, and in turn I received many many DMs asking me to actually elaborate on how to give good head.
So, you guys asked and as always – I delivered the goods. Aren’t I nice?
I created my own formula which can be easily summed up by the ‘6-T Method’ that I have so kindly detailed below for you. I believe, and have had ample male confirmation, that if you can master the below, you’re going to be viewed as a blowjob sensation. Thank me later.
Talk
It’s the boring one but it’s most important. Communication, in any aspect of sex, is key to good sex. You want to explore each other’s bodies, find out what hits the spot for both of you. When it comes to oral sex, it’s even more important. Ask him what turns him on, the spots he likes and doesn’t, the sensations he enjoys and dislikes. You get the idea. You can ask beforehand, but also talk to him through it too. Ask him for guidance, or get him to tell you when you’re playing his flute the right kinda way (oi oi!). Silence does nobody any favours and could mean you’re not doing anything positive down there and he’s too afraid to tell you, so you carry on and he never enjoys it. Nah, not here for that.
Time
Ahhh time. Time changes everything, doesn’t it? When I talk about time in regards to blowjobs it’s twofold – firstly, the time in total you spend down there, secondly the speed and time you take in your movements.
Let’s call a spade a spade, not many of us LOVE giving blowjobs, especially if we have a shallow gag reflex. That being said, this is for their pleasure and whilst our jaws may ache and our mouth hurt, I do think we should allocate a decent amount of time to the blowjob. What I mean is, if he’s enjoying it, don’t just shove it in your mouth for under 5 minutes then move on. Really make it ‘a thing’ for him and let him savour your moves and enjoy you exploring his body.
Next is the speed and time taken during the blowjob. Please do try go fast – the faster the better, when they’re getting close to climaxing. The last thing anyone wants is to be near the orgasm only for the other person to suddenly stop or slow right down and that climax immediately disappears. You can definitely change your speed and do fast moments then slower moments to catch your breath, but try keep a good base rhythm going. I like to begin quite slowly, take it all in (quite literally) and then engage in some speed and keep that going. Imagine the speed on which the guy penetrates you – that’s usually a good indicator – if not a little faster – of what he needs.
Tongue
The underrated part of the blowie is the tongue. Never forget to include your tongue when youre sucking. Many think a good blowjob is purely based on the head movements going up and down but I say nay, and I know better. It’s not an easy craft but if you can move your head up and down AND your tongue in circular motions around the shaft at the same time, you’ve become a blowjob star.
The tongue needs to be your secret weapon during this, ensuring it is consistently flickering and moving and in doing so, adding that extra layer of soft warm skin and sensation on the shaft and bellend. If circular motions feel too much to begin with, just flick it here there and everywhere! As long as it is being useful, it’s a vibe.
Tightness
Tightness is key in a good blowjob. You need to keep a tight lip around the dick – the tighter the better, as to replicate a tight pussy. I like to hold my hand at the base for added pressure and tightness when I am moving my head up and down. It can be difficult to keep your mouth tight and breathe at the same time and finding short spaces for air is fine, we don’t want this blowjob to make you pass out. But like I said you can use your hand to create the tightness as you give your mouth a break, so all is well.
Try to remember to keep a firm grip and a firm lip on his penis and you can’t go wrong.
Temperature
Temperature is often overlooked but a great addition to a great blowie. You can experiment with ice cubes, cold drinks or hot drinks – use your imagination on this one. Keeping an ice cube in your mouth as you also move up and down AND move your tongue is pretty difficult and expert-level in the blowjob playing field, but can yeild great results if you master it. Of course, they need to like the cold and hot exchange first – hence the ‘talk’ part as my first T key point. Some may find the ice too much and a put-off from the other sensations.
I personally like to go down a different route, and once I’ve spent a while with the shaft in my warm mouth, I abruptly pull my head up and blow cold air onto the bellend. They love it. I only do it for a few minutes, if that, and then shove the whole thing back deep into my throat – the change from hot to cold to hot again sends them offffffffff.
Two Balls
And finally, we have the two balls. They’re often sadly neglected during a blowjob but deserve some love too. They offer all kinds of glorious feelings for the guy, and he’ll be very appreciative that you included them, now you’re a blowjob extraordinaire. I like to regularly give my mouth and throat a break from the blowjob (bonus point for your jaw) but going down onto his balls and moving my tongue in a circular ‘8’ movement around both balls. At the same time, I’ll use my hand on the shaft and give him a simultaneous hand-job to keep the flow going on his dick. That duo combo of balls being licked and hand around his shaft will send him into a frenzy, and help him cum quicker.
And there you have it. You’re now the Blowjob Queen. Go forth, such a dick and make him say you’re the best blowjob he’s ever had (and he won’t be lying).
